2 Shakes of a Lamb’s Tail

Ok, so WOW, that was one slow lamb, right?

Awa ... how cute is this little lamb?  He shakes his tail slowly :)
Awa … how cute is this little lamb? He shakes his tail slowly ūüôā

Well, I sort of fell down the rabbit hole of wanting to add text to my pictures I’m about to post, which led to asking my very best friend about the free online picture editing programs she had told me about, which led to me finding out that my browser was too old for the program, (what?! I have a 3 yr old macbook for pete’s sake!) which led to me updating my OS to Mavericks, which took 6+ hours & 2 chat-sessions with Apple, and resulted in my iPhoto needing to also be updated, my internet being messed up, and … ok, are you asleep yet?

Sorry. ¬†I just wanted some sympathy. ¬†Can’t a girl just make a damn post anymore? ¬†My plan was to put up my Easter Post¬†yesterday … But you get what you get, (which will be momentarily.)

I’m not perfect, but you still love me ūüôā And, maybe this cute little baby lamb will make you smile.

Where In The Heck Have I Been?

It’s been over a week since my last post, but I have some great reasons for my absence:

  1. Computer issues (not fun & still not resolved – I see a trip to the not-so-genius bar in my future.)
  2. Friends visiting from out of town (fun!)
  3. Car issues (not fun & very expensive)
  4. Working on a new project (fun, but time consuming, especially when coupled with computer issues)
  5. Washing machine issues (not fun)
  6. Hosting parties: pool & poker (FUN!)
  7. Being a being a fairly good mother & wife (fun & sometimes challenging :))
  8. Reading & researching special education law (eh, i’ll file this one under “not fun,” but necessary.)

So there you have it – those are my reasons for not posting, (without going into detail and boring you to tears.) ¬†I’ll be back soon … as a matter of a fact, I got my box yesterday & it was filled with lots of yummy fruits and veggies, so I’m looking forward to doing some cooking (and posting) this weekend.

The Importance Of Being Anonymous

As you can probably guess by reading just a few of my blog posts, I really cherish my anonymity. I refer to myself as “The Fairly Good Mother,” to my husband as “The Husband” and my son as “The Boy.” ¬†One of my chief concerns, (and The Husband’s concern as well,) when starting my blog last month was protecting the privacy of myself & my family.

This the internet, where nothing can be erased, and your words might haunt you later on down the line. ¬†All I can say is THANK GOODNESS that they didn’t have social media & blogs when I was in my 20’s! ¬†Even though I do speak my mind, I’m fully aware of who I’m dragging into my opinions & their impact on my private life. ¬†And I know that our opinions and beliefs change over time, but some things you can’t take back.

When I read stories like¬†MaryAnn Sahoury’s, I realize that nothing is private on the interwebs, and that things can be stolen and manipulated by selfish, evil people who don’t care about anyone else’s reputation. ¬†She did something kind to help other mothers who were experiencing difficulty breastfeeding their child, but it was turned into porn & now her reputation & her child’s reputation will be forever marred. ¬†And that’s just one story … There are countless others.

Since The Boy has been diagnosed with Aspergers, and our hope is that we can correct a lot of, (if not all of,) the negative behaviors and he can become the poster boy for “the cure,” I never want this blog to come back and smack him in the face as something to be held against him. ¬†The stories of potty training & silliness are harmless. ¬†But in this day and age of Super Bullies, I don’t want to give them ammunition with which to eviscerate My Boy. ¬†And by making him anonymous, I feel like I’m protecting him, even if only a little.

Though I do have many friends – some have children with special needs, and some with “typical” children – who write blogs and are comfortable posting their pictures & their names for all the public to see. ¬†I’m not in any way judging them, or saying that they’re wrong, but that isn’t something I’m personally comfortable with. Like everything else in life, it’s a personal preference & I don’t begrudge anyone that. ¬†I only caution parents to think twice about what you post and how much you post, and the impact that it might have on your child(ren.)

I suppose it’s a blessing in disguise that I never achieved true “fame & fortune” as an actress. ¬†I really wouldn’t have been comfortable with the public scrutiny & the loss of my anonymity. ¬†I never knew that until I “grew up.” ¬†Don’t get me wrong, I love being the center of attention & I’m as social as they come, but I don’t like the crazies knowing my address.

I think about the whole back and forth battle that ensued between two mommy bloggers recently over something one of them posted about Adam Lanza & how she could have been his mother, because she has her own troubled adolescent son, whom she claims has Aspergers. ¬†(I’m not naming names because I don’t want to give them that kind of publicity.) Then the other mom dug around on her blog & discovered that she might be lying – that seemingly her son didn’t have any mental issues or neurological disorders (that were written about,) and rather than writing about her children affectionately, she skewered them in her blog, often writing about how she wanted to throttle them & how terrible their behavior was & what anguish it had caused her.

I’m not saying that we shouldn’t be honest or humorous in our desire to connect with other mothers, but I¬†offer a caution to other mommy bloggers … just remember, as much as you’d like to treat the internet as your diary & write down everything, just remember, it’s not paper & cannot be torn from the book & burned. ¬†(Yes, I’ve done that with my real life diaries.) ¬†If you don’t want it coming back to haunt you, or your family, take it to the grave, or tell it to a friend in a closed chat room / facebook group / over wine / in a phone call.