2 Shakes of a Lamb’s Tail

Ok, so WOW, that was one slow lamb, right?

Awa ... how cute is this little lamb?  He shakes his tail slowly :)
Awa … how cute is this little lamb? He shakes his tail slowly ūüôā

Well, I sort of fell down the rabbit hole of wanting to add text to my pictures I’m about to post, which led to asking my very best friend about the free online picture editing programs she had told me about, which led to me finding out that my browser was too old for the program, (what?! I have a 3 yr old macbook for pete’s sake!) which led to me updating my OS to Mavericks, which took 6+ hours & 2 chat-sessions with Apple, and resulted in my iPhoto needing to also be updated, my internet being messed up, and … ok, are you asleep yet?

Sorry. ¬†I just wanted some sympathy. ¬†Can’t a girl just make a damn post anymore? ¬†My plan was to put up my Easter Post¬†yesterday … But you get what you get, (which will be momentarily.)

I’m not perfect, but you still love me ūüôā And, maybe this cute little baby lamb will make you smile.

Tumbleweeds

 

 

Cue Western Gun Song from The Good, The Bad & The Ugly
Cue Western Gun Song from The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

 

Hello?  Anyone here?  *Looks around, almost gets knocked down by a tumbleweed.*

Wow, hang on a sec, let me dust off the monitor¬†and pick out the bramble from between my keys ¬†…

Oh, my poor little blog! ¬†You are so neglected! ¬†I’m so sorry … but it’s not you, it’s me. ¬†It’s my fault & my crazy working-mom-running-a-household schedule & my awful procrastination & all of my many excuses. ¬†I think about you all the time, I even have a vault of half-cooked posts!

I just backspaced over my lengthy, in-depth excuse, because I respect you enough to not ¬†to play you like that. ¬†You already know how challenging it is to juggle being a fairly good mother, a fairly good wife, a fairly good daughter, a fairly good worker & a fairly good friend, so I won’t repeat myself.

You’re so sweet to forgive me for abandoning you for so long … It reminds me of the time that my bikini waxer looked at my own bushy bramble in horror after 2 months of neglect & went to work anyway.¬† Too much information? ¬†Yeah, I thought so.

I’ll be back with a new post in two shakes of a lambs tail …

Happy New Year!

It’s the first day of a whole new year … lots of life waiting to happen. ¬†2013 was fun, interesting, full of growth & discovery … but I’m ready for a new blank book to make fresh memories & create more traditions.

Last year I created a new tradition for our family: The Good Memories Jar.  Every time one of us had a fun day, we wrote it down & put it in the jar.  Then, on December 31st we read them, remembering all the fun we had this past year.

The Good Memories Jar
The Good Memories Jar

Another tradition is our NYE Dinner: Shrimp Cocktail, Filet Mignon, Burgundy Mushrooms, a Wedge Salad & bread with Champagne Cocktails beforehand & a beautiful Syrah or Cab with dinner. ¬†Then more champagne as we ring in the new year. ¬†Most years we celebrate the east coast new year, but this year we went all out & stayed up past midnight! ¬†(I’m paying for it dearly this morning)

So I took a look at my Bake-It List & looks like I came up short! ¬†Well, guess what? ¬†One of my resolutions, (which I don’t generally like to subscribe to,) is I’m not gonna sweat the small stuff & I won’t be too hard on myself. ¬†I will roll over the things I didn’t bake in 2013 to 2014! ¬†Yes, I will make an updated Bake-It List soon! ¬†Stay tuned ūüôā

I got busy in 2013 – I unexpectedly started a new venture & had to figure out how to juggle being a working mom. ¬†It was not as easy as you working moms make it look!!! ¬†I think I finally got into a rhythm & figured out how to fit everything in … things that fall to the last on the list? ¬†Things for me. ¬†And that’s just not cool, but that’s what good moms do.

Speaking of being a good mom — here are some things I’m looking forward to doing with The Boy this coming year:

  1. Take him to see the snow (this is difficult when it’s so warm here!)
  2. Finger paint more often & do more crafts
  3. Write more books with him (he just finished two picture books all on his own!)
  4. Go on more hikes with him & explore the outdoors
  5. Star gaze & cloud burst

What are you looking forward to doing in 2014?

Where does the time go? And how does my fairly good garden grow?

I cannot believe it’s been over 30 days since my last blog entry! That’s simply unacceptable. It’s a good thing I’m not getting paid to do this ūüôā

Seriously, June was a busy month, (and that’s a good thing!) I started working again … freelance & from home for the most part. ¬†I make my own hours and can still make certain that my family is the NUMBER ONE priority. So far, it’s been really great, very lucrative & exciting. ¬†The Husband is super supportive & that is really the secret to my success.

Why did I get a job? ¬†Because I have home improvement projects that I want to get done & I don’t want to put a burden on our household finances. ¬†Next up: A fence between us and the neighbors to the east. ¬†Fences make good neighbors. ¬†I hope they get on the ball with us & get this accomplished before the end of summer. ¬†I’ve already had 2 conversations with this guy & he strikes me as a “Guy’s Guy.” ¬†Translation: He doesn’t want to discuss fences with the Fairly Good Mother. ¬†He wants to talk fences with The MAN of the HOUSE. ~Insert EyeRoll Here~

So, I’m busy & making money for fences and gardens and drapes and entertainment centers … but at what cost? ¬†No cost to the family – they’re good, well fed with delicious organic treats from my garden, but you know something’s got to give. ¬†Well then, what suffers? Writing. Blogging. Cooking. I’m seeking to find that balance. It took me a minute to work back in the exercise, but that is a necessary thing! ¬†I can’t deal with myself if I’m feeling bloated and creaky. ¬†Pilates is my savior. ¬†I love it. ¬†And thankfully, it feels like July will be less hectic and so I’m glad that I have a chance to catch up.

When you last saw my fledgling little fairly good garden, it looked like this:

the fairly good garden
the fairly good garden

Here’s what it looked like just 3 weeks ago when I fully intended to write a blog post updating you as to the condition of this garden:

the fairly good garden | June 2013
the fairly good garden | June 2013

Seriously – that was taken ONE MONTH after I planted the dang thing! ¬†I’ve reaped the LARGEST zucchini I have ever seen from this beautiful bountiful garden. ¬†I’ve eaten the sweetest strawberries, I’ve made pesto with my basil, I’ve made salad with my salad mix … and I just clipped off a brand spankin’ ruby red Habanero Chili and I cultivated a little baby artichoke, but I feel like it was the runt of the ‘choke family & so it did not get eaten.

prolly should have cut this guy when it looked like this, but I wanted to see if it would get bigger ... (that's what she said.)
prolly should have cut this guy when it looked like this, but I wanted to see if it would get bigger … (that’s what she said.)
and these weren't even the largest of the zucchinis!
and these weren’t even the largest of the zucchinis!
gardening is fun!
gardening is fun!

Things that are not going so well in the garden (*PLEASE, Tips, Tricks & Suggestions are ENCOURAGED!)

  • I have a Very Hungry Caterpillar roaming around the garden … Or perhaps there are two. ¬†I’ve met two of them and moved them to another area of the yard. ¬†They have wreaked havoc though! ¬†I used something that was non-toxic, all organic & totally safe – it was literally like pepper and $h!t or something … I cannot remember the name. It was a powder and I used it all in two applications.
  • HOLY Zucchini & Squash Leaves, People! ¬†I know for sure that Adam & Eve must have used these leaves as primitive undergarments. ¬†These are the LARGEST Freaking Leaves I’ve ever seen! ¬†And they’re prickly as f^ck. ¬†Seriously, get your damn gloves on before you go trimming them up! ¬†They crowd all the other veggies in my garden. ¬†I trimmed about 20% of the leaves back with no clear repercussions. ¬†Still got a massive zuke off that thing.
  • Cilantro is gone. ¬†It took off when the temperatures soared here last month & I’m sad because I was planning on making a kick-ass salsa with my tomatillos, tomatoes, chili peppers & cilantro. ¬†It went to flower, I cut it back (probably stupidly.) and 1 out of 2 of my plants is straight up dead.
  • Arugula went to seed. ¬†Also a victim of the 100+ temps here & I read that I should stop watering it and let the seed pods dry out then cultivate them for next season. ¬†Sound right?
  • Basil is stunted & I don’t know why. ¬†I snap off the tops when it starts to flower. ¬†Again, I think that the heat + the Very Hungry Caterpillar has something to do with it.
  • The strawberries aren’t producing as much as I thought. ¬†Same with my cucumber plant.
  • I think I over-planted … Oops! ¬†Live and Learn.

So there you have it, my dear friends … That’s what’s happening right now. ¬†I will snap more pics. ¬†I’m waiting for my tomatoes. ¬†Patiently. ¬†And the only one I saw had a nice little caterpillar hole in the bottom which made me want to put on my magnifying glasses & go on a Caterpillar hunt!

Oh, one last thing … what was for dinner tonight? ¬†Well, I have to share because it was so good … Another awesome find from Oh She Glows!¬† Veggie Spring Rolls (vegan-dish.) It was light, it was easy & it was so delicious! ¬†I licked the last of the peanut sauce off the blades of my food processor & no, I’m not joking. ¬†My dear friend had made this during her visit in April & I have been meaning to make it ever since then. ¬†So good. ¬†And perfect for not wanting to cook in 100 degree weather. ¬†And yes, I used my basil … but no, sadly, I had to purchase the cilantro.

The Importance Of Being Anonymous

As you can probably guess by reading just a few of my blog posts, I really cherish my anonymity. I refer to myself as “The Fairly Good Mother,” to my husband as “The Husband” and my son as “The Boy.” ¬†One of my chief concerns, (and The Husband’s concern as well,) when starting my blog last month was protecting the privacy of myself & my family.

This the internet, where nothing can be erased, and your words might haunt you later on down the line. ¬†All I can say is THANK GOODNESS that they didn’t have social media & blogs when I was in my 20’s! ¬†Even though I do speak my mind, I’m fully aware of who I’m dragging into my opinions & their impact on my private life. ¬†And I know that our opinions and beliefs change over time, but some things you can’t take back.

When I read stories like¬†MaryAnn Sahoury’s, I realize that nothing is private on the interwebs, and that things can be stolen and manipulated by selfish, evil people who don’t care about anyone else’s reputation. ¬†She did something kind to help other mothers who were experiencing difficulty breastfeeding their child, but it was turned into porn & now her reputation & her child’s reputation will be forever marred. ¬†And that’s just one story … There are countless others.

Since The Boy has been diagnosed with Aspergers, and our hope is that we can correct a lot of, (if not all of,) the negative behaviors and he can become the poster boy for “the cure,” I never want this blog to come back and smack him in the face as something to be held against him. ¬†The stories of potty training & silliness are harmless. ¬†But in this day and age of Super Bullies, I don’t want to give them ammunition with which to eviscerate My Boy. ¬†And by making him anonymous, I feel like I’m protecting him, even if only a little.

Though I do have many friends – some have children with special needs, and some with “typical” children – who write blogs and are comfortable posting their pictures & their names for all the public to see. ¬†I’m not in any way judging them, or saying that they’re wrong, but that isn’t something I’m personally comfortable with. Like everything else in life, it’s a personal preference & I don’t begrudge anyone that. ¬†I only caution parents to think twice about what you post and how much you post, and the impact that it might have on your child(ren.)

I suppose it’s a blessing in disguise that I never achieved true “fame & fortune” as an actress. ¬†I really wouldn’t have been comfortable with the public scrutiny & the loss of my anonymity. ¬†I never knew that until I “grew up.” ¬†Don’t get me wrong, I love being the center of attention & I’m as social as they come, but I don’t like the crazies knowing my address.

I think about the whole back and forth battle that ensued between two mommy bloggers recently over something one of them posted about Adam Lanza & how she could have been his mother, because she has her own troubled adolescent son, whom she claims has Aspergers. ¬†(I’m not naming names because I don’t want to give them that kind of publicity.) Then the other mom dug around on her blog & discovered that she might be lying – that seemingly her son didn’t have any mental issues or neurological disorders (that were written about,) and rather than writing about her children affectionately, she skewered them in her blog, often writing about how she wanted to throttle them & how terrible their behavior was & what anguish it had caused her.

I’m not saying that we shouldn’t be honest or humorous in our desire to connect with other mothers, but I¬†offer a caution to other mommy bloggers … just remember, as much as you’d like to treat the internet as your diary & write down everything, just remember, it’s not paper & cannot be torn from the book & burned. ¬†(Yes, I’ve done that with my real life diaries.) ¬†If you don’t want it coming back to haunt you, or your family, take it to the grave, or tell it to a friend in a closed chat room / facebook group / over wine / in a phone call.