We’ve been potty training The Boy going on 3 months. It’s definitely been a process. And a longer one than I had anticipated. Is it more difficult because of Asperger Syndrome? Perhaps. Or maybe it’s just his personality. Or maybe it’s a little of both.
How I thought it was going to go:
- Say bye-bye to diapers … “this is the last pack of diapers we’re buying! Woohoo, more money for wine!”
- Skip the pull-ups because it wicks the moisture away so he isn’t uncomfortable when he’s had an accident.
- Buy cute “Big Boy Undies”
- Get a small pack of m&m’s as treats for every time he goes potty – should take 1 week, so we’ll only need a small bag.
How it really went:
- Bought last pack of diapers, then had to run out and buy more … have been continuing to purchase diapers for the past 3 months, no extra money in wine fund.
- Use pull-ups on occasion (in the beginning it was for long car rides or days spent away from the house for more than a few hours at a time,) and naps
- Did purchase cute big boy undies! And then more!
- Invested in 2 large bags of m&m’s … also on hand, mini cookies & jellybeans.
He’s pretty good with the pee-pee … It only took him 2 weeks to graduate from the potty chair to standing up and using the big potty. Now, we have to remind him when it’s time to go & then give him a 5 minute warning before we take a “potty break.” We set the timer on the iPhone. Then he usually fights me, because he doesn’t want to stop what he’s doing to take the 30 seconds it takes to go pee. When he does, he is very proud of himself.
My big recommendation is to use a small size underwear with thicker, more absorbent trainer pants over the undies. It still allows him to feel the discomfort of being wet, but it usually can save you from having to clean up a huge mess on the floor.
Poop is an entirely different beast. Despite my big bag of mystery poo-poo presents (I even unwrapped them a week after wrapping them, so that he might be enticed,) he just doesn’t want to go poop on the toilet. Fine. I told him that he should just tell me that he needs to poop and we can put a pull-up on. He will often wait until we put the nap pull-up on so that he can poop in that, but more often than not, he will just go in his undies.
Do you know how gross it is to clean out poopie undies? Lawd! I am gagging as I do it, trying not to make a big deal out of it, but YUCK! Can anyone tell me why is it so much nastier than when he goes in a diaper? Do you know how many undies I’ve just thrown out because I can’t deal? And those suckers are not cheap! I even tried putting him in a diaper on the toilet so that he can see how it feels, but inevitably, he will sit there and sit there and sit there & tell me he doesn’t have to go. Then 2 seconds later, he is in his playroom being too quiet & viola! Poop.
So I bring him back in the bathroom to show him that poop goes in the toilet … we push it out of the undies & into the bowl. He looks at it for a second & then remarks insightfully, “Poo poo is different than chocolate ice cream, mama.” I had to just laugh. Why yes it is son, it most certainly is. I also explained that poo poo is yucky & ice cream is yummy & we should never ever eat poop. Sigh. Being a mom is fun 😀
Here are two videos that really helped us in the beginning … he still enjoys watching them: Bear In The Big Blue House: Potty Time With Bear (There’s also a book with the same name, that tells the same story.) And Potty Power, (kids love to see other kids doing stuff they want to do.)
Good luck in your bathroom adventures! As long as they’re potty trained by the time they enter kindergarten, I think it’s all fine.